Posts made in June, 2013

Different Vehicles to the Same Destination

Posted by on Jun 24, 2013 in Blog Posts | Comments Off on Different Vehicles to the Same Destination

Different Vehicles to the Same Destination This weekend I attended a course which was presented by Michael Neill and Ali Campbell in Glasgow.  I trained in NLP with Michael many years ago and have followed his blog posts ever since.  I recently read his new book, ‘The Inside Out Revolution’ and found some striking similarities in our approach to showing people how to return to their own natural state of equilibrium, effortlessly. The premise of the NPR process is very much based upon the principle that no one is broken.  You may be experiencing the anxious state, but not because there is anything wrong with you, or that you are mentally ill, but because once the state is created, the way to un-create it feels counter-intuitive.  The NPR process uses a psycho-educational approach firstly to demystify the anxious state, so that you have a full understanding of your own mind/nervous system interaction.  (understanding this is much simpler than you might think). I believe that this is important.  Knowing how your mind and body create your experience of life allows you to live life on your own terms, with the ability to return to peace whenever you choose, in a simple, effortless manner.  The educational aspect then moves into an experiential approach, where you learn to understand that you are not your thoughts, your thoughts are the activity of the mind, representing your experience of your world back to you for reference.  You also learn how to reconnect with yourself at the sensory level, allowing the natural homeostatic (balancing) mechanism to generate a peaceful calm state, what I call your ‘natural’ state to return. In the three principles that Michael talks about in his book, conversation is used to allow the concepts of ‘mind’ ‘consciousness’ and ‘thought’, to gently and naturally shift perspective, allowing the individual to return to a state of ‘innate wellbeing’.  I found it interesting that Michael has moved away from his roots as an NLP practitioner because he has discovered a simpler truth.  This mirrored my own experience, as although the NPR process would not have come about without my having trained in NLP, it is very much ‘not NLP’.  The principles of NLP allowed me to elicit the processes that people used to create the anxious state in the early days of my own return to peace, but it wasn’t NLP techniques and tools that took me there.  I am grateful for the foundations that it gave me in understanding the structure of our internal communication processes, but from there, the psychology, the counselling, the hypnotherapy, the mindfulness, were just a platform to spring from into developing the unique approach that is NPR.  When you are happy to be anxious, you are happy.  When you are happy to be sad, you are happy.  When you are happy to be happy, you don’t cling to it like it’s about to disappear, you are just happy to be whatever you are in whatever moment you are in. Returning to a calm state is a simple, natural process.  I would recommend Michaels Book as it is entirely compatible with the NPR process, which can’t be said for many other approaches. Enjoy the return to you. With Love. Gill.  Free – Purchase NPR Treatment Checkout Added to cart   Share...

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Thought Monsters

Posted by on Jun 10, 2013 in Blog Posts | Comments Off on Thought Monsters

Making Friends with the ‘Thought Monsters’ Yesterday one of my clients described her thoughts as ‘monstrous’.  She had been having a really tough week and the thoughts her mind was generating felt as though they were tormenting her, frightening her, ruining the happiness she had been feeling and convincing her that she was the most useless unworthy person in the world. The problem wasn’t that her mind had been creating these ‘thought monsters’.  The problem was that she was treating them as though they were real, true and accurate. One aspect of the NPR approach to anxiety is to recognise thoughts as activity of the mind.  People often go through life treating thoughts as if they are true, factual and accurate, when in fact, they are just the mind, presenting our experience of the world to us through the form of words, pictures, sounds, feelings and sensations.  Thoughts offer a running commentary of what is going on in the now, what has gone before, and what could happen in the future.  They zip around busily, often dishing out opinions, stories, judgements, ideas and viewpoints, sometimes bossing us about, criticising us, delivering cautionary tales and generally getting carried away.  That is, until you learn how to work with them. One of the most common things my clients say to me is ‘I just want these thoughts to shut up’, ‘I hate them, they go round and round and won’t leave me alone’.  (all said in an angry despairing voice).  I spend quite  a lot of time teaching people how to work with their brains, rather than in opposition to them, and when it comes to thoughts, working with rather than in opposition to is essential if you wish to experience peace of mind. This week one of my new clients told me, every time I feel my heart beating my mind tells me I’m going to die of a heart attack!  How long has your mind been telling you that?  Months!!!  And yet when I said  ‘and yet here you are very much alive’…….. We both laughed! ‘so I am’ she realised. Thoughts are not reality.  Thoughts are how the mind represents it’s experience of reality to itself.  Thoughts are how we communicate with our internal selves, while we navigate our way through the environment of our world.  Our memory of yesterday’s dinner is nothing more than a representation of how that dinner looked, tasted, was created, etc… but is not the dinner itself.  It is a representation of the dinner, brought through time, since yesterday, by our thoughts, and yet when we think the thought, we can imagine it, taste it, smell it etc.  It’s the same with traumatic memories, they are representations of experiences that we have had in the past, brought through time into our current lives by the process of thought, and when we think of them, we can feel at least some of the original pain and upset from the trauma.  However, how we treat the thoughts impacts how we experience them.  If we treat them as though they are true, real and accurate, we respond and react to them as if they are happening in reality, when in fact they are not.  This is very much the case for people who are experiencing anxiety.  The anxious mind tells threatening and cautionary tales (with the positive intention of making us cautious and careful in order to keep us safe), however, when we treat them as if they are the truth, we restrict our lives by adhering to the warnings of the mind.  If we want...

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